One of my friends recently said to me, “You know, it sucks. Being single sucks.”
And he wasn’t wrong. It does suck being single once you sit down and think about it for a while. Wanting someone to be that someone in your life is perfectly understandable. It feels nice to be close to someone. It feels nice to be able to share yourself with someone physically and emotionally.
Hell, I’ve been searching for someone for quite some time. To steal from an old friend, I want someone to be “my confidant, my co-conspirator,” and what I look forward to every day.
I want someone to etch themselves into my veins.
And I’m not looking for forever. Forever is a loooong time. I wouldn’t ask a girl for that, at least not for a while. It’s too much. I just want your now, your tonight. Give me that and I’ll give you the world.
Being single does have some positive aspects, though. It’s given me time to focus on myself.
Just within the past few months I’ve slimmed up, gotten a nice job, written more than I have in the past combined, and learned a little about how to be happy alone.
And that’s the most important thing everyone needs to learn while they’re single. To truly be happy when you meet someone special, you have to know what it means to be happy alone. You have to be okay. Getting there is one hell of a journey, and you will go lower than you’ve ever been, but I promise you will come out above the clouds.
So, to my single friend who doesn’t know how to be happy: find yourself before you start looking for someone else.
For me, it has been some while, but I think I’m finally okay. And that’s just okay.